Thursday, July 24, 2008

Black In America: Home Sweet Home


I am black and I live in America.

Whenever I sit and really think about that statement, which is hardly ever, I realize two things - this shining truth has placed me within a steel paradox; I'm both fortunate and unfortunate. And unless someone knows something that I don't, I figured it would make perfect sense to accept and embrace this undeniable fact, especially seeing as how it's going to be this way until my final breath leaves. So, I may as well take off my shoes, stretch my legs, and make myself at home. If I have any say whatsoever in this matter, it's going to be a long one.

Although this great country bears an unfortunate and ongoing history of institutionalized racism, which I imagine is largely responsible due to 400 years of slavery and just an overall pure evilness, currently, I cannot think of another place where I prefer to live besides America. Maybe Russia, seeing as how I've been called a black Russian once or twice, but definitely not Africa. I do not care to live in the Motherland. Who would I talk to? Where would I go? I don't know anyone who lives there.

I enjoy living here. Of course I do. I mean, where else can a black man reside and be endlessly judged, blatantly stereotyped, always discriminated against, mentally condemned, wrongfully accused, hated and sometimes even have a noose placed around his neck and tied to some tall and strong tree - all based on skin color alone. Where else but in the Sweet Land of Liberty can African-Americans find themselves entangled within a confusing web of frustration and injustice so intelligently woven, where the captured fly becomes upset with the captured bug which causes them both to lash out against one another. In the meanwhile, "Charlotte" quietly builds more webs.

I digress.

Fortunately, there is a flip side to each and every coin. And the other side of that rusty nickel, the positive side, undoubtedly states how only in America can black men have the tremendous opportunity to soar the educated skies and freely become whatever his heart desires. He may experience some level of discomfort and turbulence along his respective plight but as long as he chooses to remain patient and steady and focused ... eventually, he will land like a bird. In the event of a crash landing, it will signal the fact that some very bad and f*cked up decisions were made along the way.

So contrary to popular belief, the black man now has freedom in America, unless he breaks a felony law. If so, those civil liberties will quickly be taken away. Still, I am certain there are more African men who sit and dream about Coming To America ... rather than black men in America who ponder living in Africa. A sentiment which thoroughly speaks of The Motherland being a great place to visit, but upon given the choice, hardly anyone holds the desire to live there.

As a black man in America I never fail to recognize how black people have yet to overcome the psychological effects of those 400 years, as we bear witness daily. But I stand completely proud of the fact that our people have overcome free labor and possess human rights sadly unknown to our enslaved ancestors. Again, America fortunately and unfortunately is our home, the gift and the curse.

Deal with it.

34 comments:

Rich said...

Glad to see you back.

antithesis said...

1. africa is not a country. i just want to state that because...some people do not know that.
2. did you catch the CNN special last night? if so, what are your thoughts?
3. are you going to watch the second installment tonight which focuses on the black male perspective? i'm curious because i want to know how accurate you think it is.

my thoughts: as far as the female and familiar perspective goes, the bits and pieces i caught seemed accurate. the subject matter was that which ive discussed amongst peers and in spelman courses. i cant say i necessarily learned much but i think it was helpful for other who lack my upbringing/aptitude. and i think it provides an accurate depiction for whites and other cultures unfamiliar with our plight. sorry to make a post-within-a-post!

The Jaded NYer said...

you redecorated... me likey!

I can understand not wanting to go to Africa... same reason I never wanted to live in DR permanently.

I never understood when the IGNORANT ONES would say things like, "Go back to Africa" etc. I'm like, "And do what? What the hell do *I* know about Africa? I'm from HERE you idiot!!"

skinnyblackgirl said...

I have to agree with you 100% on this one.

The U.S. is full of all kinds of hypocrisy and injustice and just flat out ridiculousness. But since none of us is clearly going anywhere (Well, I don't know. If somebody paid for it, I'd gladly live like a starving writer in Italy writing, eating pasta, and seducing rich men into buying me expensive clothes, but I digress), we might as well plant our feet on this American soil and figure out how to make it do what it do.

"Keep your hands in the sky so you can play with the stars
It's not the hand you were dealt,
but how your playing your cards."

So true, Luda. So true.

Sexxy Luv said...

bravo my brotha, bravo! you made some interesting points, no doubt about that! I'm going to save a certain part of this and read it to my 4 year old sons so that they know they have a choice, and the choice is there based on the decisions they make for them selves. :)

You're amazing! lol

Muze said...

great post. *smiles*

being black in america is, like you said, both fortunate and unfortunate.

yes, we are blessed to reside in the land of the free, and home of the brave. but, to be a black man in america is to have to work daily to contradict stereotypes about them. black men are known as dangerous, aggressive, and angry.

so, to be accepted, you have to go out of your way to dress in a non-threatening way, smile, speak with a certain 'lightness' in your voice... all so that you won't be mistaken for a 'threat'.

i understand what you're saying completely, but i don't wholeheartedly agree that if a crash landing occurs it is because of 'f*cked up decisions', because sometimes, life just happens.

to me, a home is a place where you can be yourself. where you are loved and respected for who you are, not what you can do. it is a place where you can feel at total ease and comfort.

we come a long way as a people, but it is very evident that we still have a long way to go before this will truly be out 'home'.

Muze said...

correction: truly be our 'home'.

1/3 said...

lol I dont know why I thought you were going to talk about the series but anyways lol I couldnt agree with you more. Even though as a black woman i face sexism and racism there is still no other place I'd rather live. Some people have it so much worse. I believe we have come a long way since slavery. Obama is a testament to that. I know it will just get better from here..at least I will have faith it will.

deutlich said...

"Deal with it."

Amen.

JayBee said...

i like you like it here. partially because of the images that are shown to us on the tube that depict every other place as less than. i've never been anywhere else for myself, so i don't have any other way of making a comparison.

SoulOnIce said...

Deal with it sums it up, my brotha.

There are plenty of issues we have to accept, and plenty to discuss and try to change. At the end of the day, it's here, and we gotta find a way to thrive, not just survive, in this element.

karrie b. said...

i didnt get to see this, but i will hopefully tonight.

sidebar: u always say that i don't expose the "real" me...today i did in my latest post...just so that you know.

-KB

karrie b. said...

loving the new digs...

-KB

the.spot said...

Dealt with, and I stay focused upon only the positive nature of America. Even if I am forced to pour syrup on top of bowel movement and refer to it as pancakes.

Dreamy said...

i agree with you Don

to add my point to this whole thing, i am tired of hearing people complain about this and that especially when they arent gonna do anything about it

stop gryping and make the best of this here situation caues shyt aint gonna change

I'm happy to be black in America

MysTery said...

Good post.

When I saw the title, I thought it was going to be something totally different. lol

Afrobabe said...

lol @ antithesis..yep Africa is certainly not a country, I still get asked if I speak African...

I would think Don that living anywhere in the world has both its positives and negatives but we choose which we make our outlook...

James Tubman said...

a blessing and a curse to live here

and i for one believe that we should not ignore the blessings or the curses

it also depends in what condition you live in

poor people might think that this is such a hot place while middle class and rich blacks might think this is heaven

if i could live anywhere else i would definately live in europe or nigeria

my nigerian used to always tease blacks about going gray so fast saying in nigeria they dont have such stressful lives

go figure

Vivrant Thang said...

i just wrote a long comment and lost it so i'll just say glad to see you back and nice post.

X'WuN said...

I like the perspective you took on the moving to Africa thing (Though I agree that Africa is not a country) because I honestly wouldn't live in Africa either given the chance. I like being able to partially change the perception of a black man by speaking correctly when necessary and saying "No I have never been locked up nor do I hold any type of criminial record," right here in the United States of America.

Foia said...

Man that lil rapping poem reading dude is getting on my nerves..

they need to have me on there..lol

Well said...black in america..I don't have anything to say yet...

time is on my side..

Sexxy Luv said...

I love the new layout on Minus the Bars! :)

Ashley said...

I think Chris Rock said it best when he said that "America is like the uncle whp payed your way through college--but molested you as a child."

Insightful, right?

THAT is what gossip magazines do me! Lol!

Don said...

@ ashley: very insightful, and i agree with that funny comment.

@ sexxy luv: thank you, and thank you for your support even during the drought. i think choices and decisions are the core of that which is positive and that which is negative. i truly believe this.


@ foia: are you talking about eric michael dyson? LOL. if so, that's hilarious.


@ x'wun: bruh, trust me when i say this your statement is one in a million. mad props.


@ vivrant thing: thank you and i appreciate you immensely.

@ james tubman: i appreciate the blog invite and i plan to get with on that. i agree, consitions make a world of a difference. europe does not tempting, if i had the cheese.



@ afrobabe: i agree, just appears more magnified here in america amongst our skin color and beyond. a driving storm, if you will.



@ mystery: too funny. i'm trying to clean up my image, somewhat anyways. LOL.




@ dreamy: same here. i complain but i try to balance it out with the positives. that helps to keep me sane cause like you said it is what it is.



@ the.spot: funny comment.


@ KB: thanks. your blog post went beneath the surface, and i like getting an ideal and understanding of THE karrie b, herself.



@ soulonice: yep. definitely have to make it a thriving situation and not just a matter of survival. nothing but the truth in that statement.




@ jaybee: same here, for the most part. i hear that it's a good life over in germany but i was told that by military people, so you know...



@ deutlich: i am a witness.




@ 1/3: i too have faith that a bigger picture will be drawn. and i definitely think we have come along way since those iron-clad shackles.



@ muze: sometimes life does tend to happen. i agree. i was thinking in a more majority and personal sense. i've made some scary decisions that, as you know, haunt me @ times. but i'm once again headed to a safe place called "home" - believe that.



@ SBC: luda came real with that statement. i'd never heard it before but i agree with it. i also agree that @ we might as well plant our feet on this American soil and figure out how to make it do what it do. ...no doubt.



@ the jaded nyer: yep...and too funny. I'm like...what do you mean when you say go back to africa? i've never been to africa. i would love to visit though.



@ ashley: i will send an email. and thanks for the blog award i really appreciate it, and i appreciate the fact that you listen. we both listen. thank you.



@ rich: thanks.

Stew said...

Yep.

though i do like South Africa. i do not think that it would be a bad place to live.

AO said...

Great post Don, (and thanks for checking out my page),

Real quick response to the topic: I work at a catering hall on the weekends to earn money while I go to college. SO, at one of the parties that I worked a few months ago, this old white guy was sitting at one of the tables that I wasn't working at and asked me to bring some coffee or something to his table. Went to the kitchen, brought the coffee back. He asked me what my name is and I said "Aaron." His response: "That's an odd name for a black guy."

Yet, I still go to work at the same catering hall. Not that I expect to encounter racism everytime I go to work, but still, that's a perfect example of what some Black Americans have to deal with just because they are Black Americans.

AO
http://PardonMyFresh.com

Annie World said...

Good read! Something that should be read by many students today!!! OPEN EARS AND EXPAND THEIR MINDS!

K said...

What a fantastic post. I agree 100% with everything you've said.

dessex said...

I do a agree. As much as we would like the current state to change...I am not it will. We as black people just need to continue to work hard and prove them wrong.

Great piece

Don said...

thanks stew, ao, annie world, k, and dessex.

Dilusi said...

Late as all get out && a little hesitant about posting, BUT..

**warning:: I'm pretty sure what I consider logical some people are going to see as ignorant as I refuse to pore over and internalize something that happened years ago**

Slavery happened. It was horrible, and there's no changing that. Fact remains, we are not slaves now. Regardless of any injustices we may face we have the right to equality. If we're treated unfairly, we may not always win, but if we take it there we have the law is on OUR side. To me at least, that matters. All that other isht, I can let that go. Because honestly, we were not the only slaves and we were not the last slaves. (shoot, there are slaves TODAY.. how about we cry about them and not about what happened hundreds of years ago..)

Maybe I'm cold/unfeeling/what have you, but slavery is history to me. It's been alive and well since the beginning of time and that's just the way the world is. Like other things in history (Sacrificing of babies, women being considered property, etc) it's horrible, but to me-- that's just life. Those were different times. Things I see as horrendous, were the norm. I'm looking at the actions of past with someone of the 21st century's perspective and I don't think it's fair to judge them by today's standards. Shoot, at one point in time if someone LOOKED at you the wrong way or said something out of order it was acceptable to dual. That would never fly now, but that was the time in which THEY lived.

Wisdom Body said...

I understand exactly where your coming from. Unlike you I have thought of the fact I am Black and I live in American (that I am African-American). I have never been to Africa. Would I like to visit? Of course. I want to trace my roots. Sometimes, I think about what Africa would be like if our ancestors were not removed from their lives and forced to come to an unfamiliar land, worked for unconceivable amounts of hours a day with no pay, beaten, rapes, emotionally abused, disarmed, manipulated, and just flat out broken down to the lowest denominator (at least they tried). However, after all the ridiculous extreme pain and suffering that our people were forced to endure they over came so much all because they maintained strength and their belief in God. We have brought so much to this country, we have invented so many things that this country would not survive and be what it is with out that. What did Africa lose due to slavery? What would Africa be like if our ancestors were not ripped from their lives. Could we say it would be the same as it is now? I don't think so. Sometimes I wonder what Africa would be like if all of its original descents were to relocate their and all the invaders were removed. Can you imagine? Let me know what you think? What do you have to say?

THE PRINCESS "CC" said...

I love to hear Black in America from a "Black Man's Perspective" as opposed to the media just pouring out overwhelming statics, I know they are to educate the ignorant, but sometimes I feel that they really feed into that bull. I feel that they should equally focus on the beauty of being Black.

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Anonymous said...

Thanks for your post on my blog.
I wanted to check you out so I came here to see the essence of your blog.
I like what you're doing. I know I'm just a white guy so I won't pretend to fully understand all the nuances of your blog, but I wanted to share an idea that came to me while I watched the Democratic National Convention.
Obama has make history! And, if you checked my blog you know that I was a true blue supporter. I became heavily involved in the Texas campaign.
Now, while I was watching Obama's speech at the convention, I thought to myself could this be a Chinese-American? Could this be an Indian-American? Could this be a Mexican-American? I decided that it was less likely that any of those people could be on that stage. I realized that African-Americans not viewed as "foreigners." They are simply Americans. I think America would be much less likely to elect a Chinese American based on his or her appearance than an African American. All my life, I have viewed African-Americans, black folks, as simply American, but an asian person no matter how long their parents have been in America always seem more foreign. The same is true for Indian-Americans, Mexican-Americans and Arab-Americans. I don't discriminate against any of these groups, but seriously could a Chinese-American ever be on that stage?
Just thought I'd throw that out there.
Cheers!